For most divorcing couples, the single best thing they can do — for the sake of their children, their future relationship, and their wallets — is to keep the process as civil as possible. Fighting in court guarantees big legal bills, bitterness, and anguished children.
Choosing the right lawyer is very important. You want someone who can help you keep things calm, but also protect your rights and those of your children. Many lawyers can help you negotiate with your spouse and work out the big issues of child custody, support, and property division.
Unfortunately, it's not always possible to keep a divorce amicable. If your spouse is being dishonest or vindictive, or if there's been abuse, a lawyer can help you protect yourself and your children.